What I Love About Being Gay
Updated: Sep 8, 2018
Believe it or not, LGBT people aren’t miserable all the time! Weird, right?
I’ve spent a lot of time writing about some of the challenges that come with being gay on this blog. I’ve focused my attention there because those things are super important, and we need to draw more attention to the daily struggles of the LGBT community. And I’m not done yet.
However, there are many things that I love about being gay. I’m sure I’ll write about some of these things in more detail in later posts, but I wanted to touch on some of the reasons I’m proud of my identity and hit my blog with a blast of positivity - because, let’s be honest, we all need some of that from time to time.
Some of these are serious, some of them are sarcastic, and some of them are silly - but all of them are important to me.
Here’s my shortlist of reasons why I love being gay:
Automatic inclusion in a strong, proud community.
There’s a reason that celebrations of gayness are called Pride Festivals. We’re a small, tight-knit community of people who have gone through similar struggles and can relate to one another in a way that people outside of our community simply cannot understand. It’s amazing to know that whenever I feel like an outsider in the world, I always have a community to call home. I am so proud of that.
It’s an easy talking point.
Have you ever been stuck in an awkward conversation with someone new and been unsure what to say next? Well, just talk about being gay! It’s a great way to gauge the other person’s personal thoughts on your outrageous lifestyle, and it also serves as a great conversation starter… “Did I mention I like men? What about you? Are you fabulous, too?”
Disclaimer: please don’t do this.
You can put rainbows on everything.
Let’s face it: rainbows are beautiful. There’s just something incredibly pleasing about all the colors co-existing in a gradient of love. And these days, rainbows are often synonymous with homosexuality. SCORE. Rainbow flag? Check. Rainbow wardrobe? Check. Rainbow car? Not yet, but… eventually, check.
You’re automatically more fabulous than everybody else.
While fabulosity is not a scientifically-calculable unit of measure, it has been proven that gay people are infinitely more fabulous than their heterosexual counterparts. There’s just some magical aura surrounding a gay person that straight people simply do not have. Let’s call it… an unknown sparkle. A rainbow miracle. A silver unicorn. Fabulous.
You form stronger bonds.
This applies to your relationships with both other gay people and straight people. With straight people, you often feel closer with someone once you’ve come out to them and gotten through the “tough part” and they’ve decided to love you just the same as before. Which, let’s be honest, shouldn’t be a big deal… but sometimes it is. With other gay people, you don’t even have to say anything - there’s just love there. It’s automatic.
You aren’t a straight male.
Can you imagine? The horror.
Disclaimer: I love many straight men. This is a joke. Mostly.
People look up to you.
Whether you like it or not, as a member of the LGBT community, you are often forced to serve as a role model. You don’t need to be perfect - you just need to be yourself. Many young LGBT people look up to other LGBT people in their lives for guidance on how to navigate the waters of youth. And many straight people look up to us as “strong” and “brave” despite the challenges we face. Give me my crown, please.
When you learn to love yourself for all that you are, the feeling is indescribable.
It’s a tough journey toward accepting yourself for all of your flaws, whether or not those flaws and challenges are related to being gay. But that moment when you realize that you can be yourself in this world and deal with whatever consequences may stem from that decision… It’s magic. And it makes it all worth it in the end.
This list isn’t exhaustive. I could come up with more reasons why I love being gay. But I wanted everyone reading this - gay or straight - to know that it isn’t all gloom and doom. There are wonderful aspects to being gay, just as there are challenging ones.
Sometimes you have to take a moment to be thankful for what you have. And boy, am I thankful.
This post was brought to you by Shake It Off by Taylor Swift, because I listen to it whenever I need a reminder that everything is going to be okay. Or when I just want to shake my non-existent booty. That, too.
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